Don’t Mention the “C” Words
Sometimes it’s challenging to write a newsletter that is seasonally appropriate, politically correct and pertinent to the message of values-based leadership. During this season we like taking time off from work, we enjoy seasonal parties, folks don’t seem particularly unsettled if we bring them gifts and the mention of “holiday” is appropriate.
Holidays, parties and gifts are all fine, so long as we don’t mention the “C” words, because the “C” words apparently are offensive to some. Some people in the workplace even corrected me when I wished them a happy “C” or a merry “C.”
Look… clearly I want to respect the sensitivities of others, but at the same time, where’s the respect for me and my values?
Rather than judge from our own lens, it seems to me we should celebrate each person’s values, encouraging peaceful and productive expression of those values. We should respect individual belief systems because our acceptance would demonstrate connectedness among us, dependency between us, and humility within us. Humility fosters acceptance; acceptance garners mutual respect; mutual respect fuels hope.
Think about it…most disagreements, arguments and fights come about because we want our own way. Rather than respect the views of others we feel justified shouting them down or locking them out when we don’t agree. We crave and demand our own way, and when we don’t get our way, we manipulate, legislate or demand it.
Such self-focus cheats us and it cheats others – self-focus breeds discontent, disharmony and despair. On the other hand, humility and selflessness are the birthplace of peace, hope and joy.
Whatever holiday season you celebrate this month, I encourage you to explore and celebrate the power of humility – it is a peaceful, joyful transformational force that generates hope.
For me, this season is about hope – hope that we’ll learn to respect and accept others; hope that we’ll consider the wants and needs of others equal to our own; hope that we’ll embrace humility and selflessness to bring joy, peace, hope and healing to a hurting world.